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Let’s talk about BULLYING!
This month we have been teaching lessons on bullying in each classroom. Our goal is to empower our students to develop problem solving skills and how to stand up and speak out against bullying. Below are some talking points that you can use to discuss bullying with your children.
Bullying definition: Bullying is when someone hurts your body or your feelings, repeatedly, on purpose, and it is one sided.
Rude vs. Mean vs. Bullying
When someone unintentionally does or says something hurtful.
Can be stopped by telling the person how you feel or ignoring it.
When someone does something intentionally hurtful and they do it once.
Can be stopped by telling the person to stop, how you feel, or ignoring it.
When someone does something intentionally
hurtful, and they do it repeatedly.
Tell an adult that you trust.
Be an UPstander! An upstander is someone who stands up to bullying. Here are 4 strategies you can use to be an upstander:
Be a Buddy
You want the bully to know that you are not OK with the Bullying, but you need to do it in a way that is not mean and doesn’t keep the fight going.
A Few Clever Comebacks
I don’t like it when…………………
I don’t think so…………..
I can’t believe you said that!
That’s your opinion.
Was that really necessary? Really?
That doesn’t even make sense.
Really? Thanks! That’s just what I was trying for.
What? (Say this over and over if you need to)
Say the person’s name.
Please Note: You have a right to defend yourself and there are smart ways to do it. None of these comebacks contain words that can get you in trouble with grown-ups. Use some of these clever comebacks and please tell an adult at school to get help. Of course, tell your parents, too.
Staying Strong at School
Hold your head up high and your shoulders back/ Look the person in the eye, and try to keep your voice steady while you are talking. Acting confident will help you feel more confident.
Take a break:
Step away from the situation and give yourself a pep talk.
Keep it Cool:
Try to look annoyed or bored. Don’t let the bully know they have gotten to you.
Take a few, long deep breaths.
Let it OUT:
Talk to an adult at school who can listen and help. Please talk to your parents when you get home, ALWAYS.
Find a Favorite Saying or Quote:
Example: I’m strong, smart and totally amazing. ( You could make a bracelet and write the 1st letter of each word in you motto such as: = I.S.S.T.A.)
Listen to your favorite music
Being a Good Upstander- If you see someone being Bullied, Help STOP It. This is how:
“Leave them alone.” “Wow. That’s just wrong.”
“STOP it!” “C’Mon, let’s get out of here.”
HERE’S what NOT to do:
Don’t try to get even.
Two wrongs don’t make a right.
Don’t ask others to take sides, this will keep the fight going.
Avoid yelling, whining and losing control.